Life After Narcissists - The book

Many women sense that something was not right in a personal, family, or workplace relationship long before they have the language to name it. This book speaks to that experience. It explores both subtle and overt patterns of narcissistic behaviour, the psychological and physiological impact of these dynamics, and why leaving such relationships is often far more complex than it appears from the outside.

Blending lived experience with decades of professional expertise, Tracey-Lee Hogan offers a trauma-informed pathway through recognition, understanding, and healing. The first part of the book shares her own raw and honest story, alongside composite portraits of women from very different backgrounds who encountered remarkably similar relational patterns. These narratives reflect the confusion, self-doubt, and erosion of trust that often develop over time.

The second part of the book unpacks narcissistic dynamics through an evidence-based lens, helping readers understand how these relationships affect perception, decision-making, emotional regulation, and identity. Rather than pathologising or sensationalising, the focus remains on clarity, validation, and restoring a sense of personal agency.

The final section turns toward recovery, exploring how relational trauma lodges not only in the mind, but in the body and nervous system. Readers are guided through what genuine healing requires, including rebuilding self-trust, regulating the nervous system, reconnecting with the body, and learning to feel safe within themselves again.

Written with warmth, insight, and practical wisdom, Life After Narcissists supports women in finding their way back to themselves. Most importantly, it offers reassurance that happiness, wholeness, and agency are not only possible again, but attainable through informed, compassionate healing.

Life After Narcissism is one of those rare books that makes you feel truly seen. Tracey Lee Hogan writes with honesty, clarity, and deep compassion, breaking down a complex and often misunderstood experience in a way that is both validating and empowering.

What sets this book apart is how practical it is. It doesn’t just explain narcissistic behaviour – it helps you heal from it.
The insights are gentle yet direct, and the guidance feels grounded in real understanding rather than theory. At every stage, Tracey reassures the reader that recovery is possible and that rebuilding confidence, boundaries, and self-trust is within reach.

This book is a lifeline for anyone who has been affected by narcissistic relationships, whether romantic, family, or workplace. It’s also an excellent resource for professionals supporting clients through recovery.

Honest, hopeful, and deeply affirming – this is a must-read for anyone ready to move forward and reclaim their life.

Highly recommended.

Charlotte D - January 2026

A brilliant and wonderfully comprehensive guide to healing and wholeness. 

Tracey has incredible knowledge and expertise, and has lovingly created this book to help others recover, and thrive after abuse. 

She also includes excellent natural health support, and has a deep understanding of abuse and overcoming severe challenges. 

Highly recommended!!

Simone - February 2026

Tracey-Lee Hogan begins with her own story of growing up in a home shaped by violence, fear, and silence, then moves into composite portraits of women entangled in narcissistic dynamics at home and work. She explains how these behavioural patterns affect the nervous system, perception, and decision-making, and why clarity often comes only with distance. The final section outlines the Hogan Method, a staged, trauma-informed approach to healing that integrates education, nervous system and gut support, nutrients and herbal medicine, lifestyle change, and a gradual reconnection with self.

The writing is direct and clear, pausing to connect lived experience with trauma research in a way that blends emotional honesty with scientific insight. Hogan’s grounded language, clinical experience, and compassionate guidance create a credible, validating resource for readers making sense of the emotional and physical aftermath of harmful relationships. This book is especially suited to women seeking both personal understanding and evidence-based support, offering a thoughtful, clinically informed pathway toward healing and renewed self-trust.

Vanessa - February 2026